I lost my faith in finding someone to love?

I just broke up with a guy that I had been dating only a short while, almost 3 months. We never could get on the same page. When we met in July, I was coming out of a heartbreak of my own doing because I wasted my time and affection on a guy that was untrustworthy. That hurt was bad enough that I decided to be alone because it was easier. We ended up going on our first date to celebrate Valentines Day. We spent most of our weekends hanging out and everything started out going really well. I was really excited about him because he is extremely handsome, funny, and kind-hearted. But, something never felt right about us. I started off thinking that it was me. this is because I went through a lot of stress immediately after we started dating. The 1st floor of my house had to be gutted due to a plumbing issue and the repairs got so complicated and took so long that I thought I would lose my mind because my home is my sanctuary. He would spend time with me and listen to me and did a really good job of distracting me from my troubles. After my home was finally repaired, he told me that he was very afraid that he would lose me. I reured him that I wouldnt throw him away because of something like that because houses can be fixed. However, other situations would make him uneasy. Whenever I would ask him if he was insecure, he would say that he was only concerned because we werent committed to each other yet. I started getting overwhelmed because I felt rushed and asked him to be patient. About 2 months into our relationship, I stayed overnight at his house and had a little embarring mishap while he was running errands. We laughed about it and he commended me for being comfortable enough to be honest about it and glad that I fixed the problem that I created. At this point, I felt like I had a winner. He took me with him when one of his relatives cooked and invited him to come over. Nothing formal, just a laid back day of tv and good soul food. He invited me to come on the family trip for Memorial day and I was excited to go. Also, I invited him to some gatherings with friends, family, and coworkers. He was my date to a wedding and started mentioning that he wanted our ceremony to be beautiful like that. But, little things kept nagging at me - regarding him having insecurities and being controlling. He would see little comments on facebook and I told him not to jump to conclusions. I. One of my friends was angry at one of her family members for taking advantage of her kindness. He sent me a text saying that he wanted to make sure that i wasnt dealing with some guy. I told him that wasnt the case. I told him that I felt we needed to slow down - empasizing that he should not be speaking about wedding ceremonies and plans until he was able to see me for my own character and not compare me to the women who hurt him in the past. My birthday was a few days ago and I had been talking about going to Music Fest for weeks. He said that he was excited, too...if the weather would be nice. Two days before the concert, he suggested that we go to a movie instead. I agreed since the day was very overcast. He knew weeks in advance that I took a vacation day for my birthday. But two days before that, he said that he thought I would be going to work. I invited him to a friends celebration this weekend. He just said that he would rather go to the playoff game Saturday or to a fight party that his friend was hosting. My issue is that he shares my excitement in the beginning and waits until the last minute to say he changed his mind. I told him that I didnt think dating would work out until we focus on building a stronger friendship because we clearly didnt understand each other. He started cussing and said that I obviously wasnt used to a good man and that Im just like all those other women. I told him, not to speak to me that way...It took me almost an hour to calm him down. He sent me a message saying that he wants to speak face to face because he really wanted us to be in a relationship. I felt that we discussed everything that needs to be said at this point.